Supporting Gay Teens

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In the last year, it has been hard toturn on the television without seeing something about the bulying of gay teens or even worse, the suicide of a gay teen.

Many people refuse to accept that this is a problem, but it is, and we need to offer support to gay teens whenever possible.

Nearly all of us have heard an anti-gay sur used, whether it was directed at a gay teen or a straight one. In either case, the words such as “homo” and “faggot” should be avoided completely, even if the have become all-too-familiar in the vernacular of teens in school today. In addition to having to endure these insulting words, gay teens also face many other challenegs that straight kids may not. Some gay teens don’t receive support from their families and are turned away. Others are constantly told that their lifestyle is a “choice.” This, in fact, is a belief that many people still hold, even though studies have shown  a “gay gene” does exist.

Bullying of gay teens happens just as often, if not more often, as it does to straight teens. It happens at school, on the street, and even in the home sometimes. What isn’t surprising is that the bullying comes from other students and adults as well. Some schools have begun to support gay students by creating safe havens for them. LGBT centers have been established in some school, as have no-tolerance bullying policies. While not all schools have follows this lead, many are, and that is a big step in the right direction.

Creating Safer Schools for LGBT Individuals

Being a child and attending school is hard enough, but also being LGBT can create a frightening experience for many.

As parents, leaders, and supports we need to advocate for strong national policies to ensure bullying and harassment within schools are abolished, not tolerated, and have consequences for the actions.

The PFLAG organization has developed an initiative guide to help make schools safer for all students.

  • Learn the facts about what is going on in your schools. Many school officials have blinders on when it comes to LGBT students. They do not believe their schools are impacted and often do not have policies in place to take action when rights are violated.
  • Everyone wants to be respected, so learn the proper language and understand it. Become familiar with the definition of sexual orientation, gay, lesbian, transgender, etc. The use of appropriate and respectful language is a benchmark to setting the tone of mutual respect and understanding.
  • Adults in the school community need to be more involved and work towards stopping the discriminating behaviors occurring on school grounds
  • Schools need to develop strong inclusive anti-harassment policies which are enforceable and concrete along with training and educational programs offered to the entire school community.
  • Every member of the school community including parents, student, teachers, and administrators need to understand the commitment to protecting LGBT students, the expectations, and the policies. Hosting school wide activities and programs, while offering resources can convey the school’s message.
  • Schools need to come out as a public ally for LGBT students. This can be done by making sure the school library has LGBT age appropriate materials and resources, offering counselors and social workers trained in diversity issues, establishing task forces to enforce and aid in ending bullying and harassment, and displaying signs and other public symbols supporting diversity.